Saturday, September 18, 2010

Should I Grieve?

By Kristine Denver

Holding funeral services is a way of taking action to overcome grief; it makes a tangible memorial for your loved one who passed away. Almost all cultures have a manner of honoring the dead. The act of offering tribute gives comfort, support, and solace for those who are left behind.

Grieving is a person's innate response to loss. Grief is the pain you feel when you lose something that or someone who is an essential part of your life.

Several instances of grieving for the loss of a person or something are the following:

- you have broken up with someone - loss of a a career - you lost the single opportunity to pursue what you love doing the most - a loved one is diagnosed with a serious illness - the hospital test results came in and your physician tells you that you are suffering from a serious illness - your spouse declares that the marriage is over and needs a divorce - loss of a cherished best friend - your pet died - a loved one dies

All these instances can cause us to experience grief. Nevertheless, the most intense anguish that we feel is when someone we love - such as a spouse, a child, or a mother or father- dies. Nothing can ever be a substitute for their place in our feelings and memories.

These special people may have been all there ever was to us. And life would never be the same again when they are gone. We experience the torment of having someone we cherish taken away from us. Yet, in grieving, we have the hope of being able to heal our anguish and strengthen our lives to move forward again.

There is no right or wrong way to express grief. Still, we should opt for the way that encourages us to heal after all the loss that we experienced.

It is common presumption that grieving have to be done by weeping each time we remember our loved ones who passed away. Tears are not the only indicators of sorrow. A person may seem quiet, as if stoic; yet deep down, they also feel the loss.

Also, in opposition to the myth, grieving does not only cover only a year. The length of the grieving process will be different for an individual compared with another. If you are grieving, don't rush yourself to instantly "get over it." Permit time to heal your sorrow.

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